Maggie & Me : Coming Out and Coming of Age in 1980s Scotland by Damian Barr

Revisit the Thatcher years as seen from the eyes of a working class teenager from a smallMaggie & Me town near Glasgow.

In 1984, eight year old Damian views Margaret Thatcher’s televised iconic survival from a bombing on the first night he is living in a stranger’s apartment after his parents split up.

The stranger is his mother’s new boyfriend, who turns out to be highly abusive to Damian and his sister.  It doesn’t help that his mother soon has another child with her boyfriend, and shortly after is hospitalized with a brain hemorrhage.  When his mom comes back home, they eventually leave the abusive boyfriend, but the next living arrangement is far from ideal.

His father still has his children every other weekend, and Damian is remains close to his dad, even though the dad’s girlfriend is a piece of work and tends to dominate things when the kids visit.

Growing up with his peers is not easy.  Damien is always the tallest and geekiest in his class.  He also knows early on that he is gay, and gets a lot of flack from the other kids for it.  He also meets some lasting friends and understanding teachers, finds that he’s good at most academics (math excepted), and has a life amidst the squalor that makes up home.

Damien comes to terms with Margaret Thatcher in his own fashion, alternatively seeing her as enemy or motivator.  That’s one of the things I liked about the book.  He has his issues with Thatcher, being from a working class environment, but doesn’t completely vilify her.  As a slight nod to the Iron Lady, each chapter begins with a Thatcher quote to set the tone.

While Margaret Thatcher’s era is the framework for Maggie & Me, the story is all Damian’s, and he renders his teenage years vividly.

(William Hicks, Information Services)

 

 

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Blue Like Jazz : Nonreligious Thoughts on Christian Spirituality by Donald Miller

blue like jazzMany years ago, while I was a part of a Bible study group, the leader of the group gave all of us a copy of Blue Like Jazz by Donald Miller.  Apparently, he was so smitten with the book that he wanted all of us to read it.  I actually read it and fell in love with  Miller’s unconventional journey in his Christian faith.  I wanted an adventure like him too, and to be able to tell the tale in an authentic voice.

After more than ten years of reading the book, with notes scribbled all over the pages and margins, I am revisiting it for a review.  Why did I like Blue Like Jazz so much?  It was refreshing to me after reading many books on Christianity.  Some Christian books feel like books of advice to me, but this one has a narrative, a story to tell, from a different and other perspective.  It has moments that everyone could relate to, for instance:

Believing in God is as much like falling in love as it is making a decision.  Love is both something that happens to you and something you decide upon.

Now that is something I can relate to, much more than an interpretation on Scripture that another book might do instead.  I am not saying that those types of books are bad and irrelevant –  just that someone young and open like me will most likely appreciate Miller’s open and poignant faith journey more.

However, I do not think Blue Like Jazz is a perfect book, as a review from Challies.com stated that “the great failing of this book is the author’s belief that Christianity is a feeling, and is not something that can be rationally explained or understood.”  I believe it may be best to take this book as one man’s experience with Christianity, not the gospel truth, and get the best out of the book with that in mind.

I thoroughly enjoyed the book as a memoir; it inspires me to attempt to write my own.

(Stella Oh, Benjamin Branch Library)

The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls

I borrowed a copy of The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls years ago from a classmate.  Iglass castle was picking through his small bookshelf, and he recommended the book to me.  We had very different thoughts about what’s important in life, and I desperately wanted to know what was important to him because I wanted to understand him.  Now to the book.

The Glass Castle is a memoir of a woman who lived through poverty.  What I liked about the book, actually, is that the author did not wallow in it.  I liked that she did not go on about the misery of being poor and living in uncertain circumstances.  Jeannette has a story to tell, and I believe it’s not all about overcoming her impoverished childhood.  I believe a lot of it has to do with her relationship with her father, of coming to terms with who they were, and most importantly who they were together.  At least that is what I found poignant to me.

A few years after I had read the book almost feverishly, the movie was released.  I had long said goodbye to my classmate, but I still wanted to see the film.  So I did, and although I cannot say that it was a perfect movie, I thought that the director (Destin Daniel Cretton) casted the movie well, especially with Woody Harrelson as the father.  They were as believable to me as the real life characters I imagined them to be while reading the book.  Even though my memories of the details of the book were a little fuzzy by then, I believe Cretton did a good job overall of making the book come to life.

There is a beautiful passage in the book about a tree I want to share.  I will quote it here:

One time I saw a tiny Joshua tree sapling growing not too far from the old tree.  I wanted to dig it up and replant it near our house.  I told Mom that I would protect it from the wind and water it every day so that it could grow nice and tall and straight.  Mom frowned at me.  “You’d be destroying what makes it special,” she said.  “It’s the Joshua tree’s struggle that gives it its beauty.”

Those words struck a chord in me as I have been through struggles in my own life as I am sure many have, albeit of a different kind.  What Jeanette’s mom calls beauty, I would like to call strength and character.  And they can be beautiful indeed.

I highly recommend discussing this book with your friends.

(Stella Oh, Benjamin Branch Library)

A Year of Less by Cait Flanders

The Year of LessIn recent times, I have realized that, like many American people, I have fallen into bad habits of consuming way too much.

I borrowed a copy of A Year of Less by Cait Flanders, wanting some help on purging my belongings, a project that I had intended to start on for months or maybe a year.  I was then delighted to find that the book is actually a memoir, one of my favorite genres of writing, chronicling the life of a young woman wanting to spend less and save more.  Not only that, she purged other things in her life such as unhealthy food and television.

I found it rather poignant and insightful to find how she dealt with her life’s happenings, especially the divorce of her parents.  Although it may not be apparent as to why her parent’s divorce is in a memoir of living on less, describing that aspect of her life helped me understand what was important to her and what was not.  I believe that was what the book was really about.  Denying herself made her aware of the things she most wanted in her life – the things that made her happy and gave her meaning.

I do not want to spoil what happens to her at the end of the book.  I have gone through similar questions that Cait has had about jobs, money, materials, traveling, etc.  I recommend that you take a read at this blog-turned-book and gather what one person has to say about life.  I as a young woman personally found myself agreeing and saying, “I totally understand!”

The library has copies of this book in print and also as an eBook through the North Carolina Digital Library.

(Stella Oh, Benjamin Branch Library)

Logical Family by Armistead Maupin

Logical FamilyLogical Family follows the life of Armistead Maupin, who first made his mark in the literary world as the writer of a daily serial that began in the 1970s for the San Francisco Chronicle.  This serial would evolve into the long-lived and much-loved Tales of the City series, nine in all, that recount the juicy backstories of the residents of 28 Barbary Lane.

Maupin has quite a backstory – originally from Raleigh, he grew up with a conservative southern father and somewhat more tolerant mother.  In his young adulthood, Maupin was politically conservative himself (he even pulled a stint working for Jesse Helms), served in the navy during the Vietnam War, then spent his post- military life writing for several jobs and generally finding himself, and his sexuality.

Maupin’s move to San Francisco in the early 1970s provided him with a much needed community; he found there his “logical family” that he lacked earlier in life.  And in writing the serial that became Tales of the City, he tackled a number of issues that pertained to gay life in San Francisco at the time – the shooting of Harvey Milk, the AIDs epidemic, etc.

Although he’s written a few standalone novels (The Night Listener comes to mind) and now this memoir, The Tales of the City series remains Maupin’s best known batch of work.  I can’t attest to the series as a whole, but I did read the first four books years ago, and then the final (The Days of Anna Madrigal) much more recently and enjoyed them all very much.

In Logical Family, I liked how Maupin chronicled his changing relationships with his family.  Even when he had differences with them (especially his father), he managed to maintain a sense of civility with his parents that was touching, and everyone involved grew with the years – there was way more endearment here than bitterness.

(William Hicks, Information Services)

 

 

Gone Feral : Tracking My Dad through the Wild by Novella Carpenter

After being estranged from her father for years, the author reassesses both her parentsgone feral and their roles they have played in her life as she reconnects with her father.

Carpenter’s parents lived the back-to-the-land lifestyle early on.  She and her older sister were born in the early 1970s, and spent their early childhood on a rural spread of land outside of Orofino, Idaho.  The idealism wore thin for their mother after a time, and she eventually moved her kids to Washington State for a more stable livelihood.

Solitary by nature, Carpenter’s father George continued to make a marginal living for himself on the same piece of land.  He would keep up with his ex-wife and daughters sporadically via phone calls and emails through the years.  Residents of the area knew his eccentric routines.

George goes missing for a longer period of time than usual, and when he turns up again, the author sees this as an opportunity to forge a closer relationship with her dad.  Reunions with him, however, tend to be brief, disturbing and scattershot, and Carpenter begins to fear for his sanity (and consider her own) as she goes about linking her father’s past with her continuing life story.

Gone Feral explores fringe lifestyles (urban farms, communal homesteading) and how family ties never completely disappear.

(William Hicks, Information Services)

Dimestore by Lee Smith

Although the award-winning writer Lee Smith grew up in the mountains of Virginia, shedimestore has lived in North Carolina, most recently in Hillsborough, for many years.  These essays about her life and writing are good reading, especially for fans of her fiction.  If you grew up in the 1940s and ‘50s, you’ll especially enjoy sharing her memories of these years.  If you’re familiar with Chapel Hill, you’ll want to see it through Lee Smith’s eyes.

Smith grew up in a rather dysfunctional but loving family and often spent time in the small-town dime store that her father owned.  There she observed the lives of many people and listened to their conversations, gaining insights that would later provide material for fiction.  She began writing as a child, getting into trouble with a neighborhood newspaper with editorials such as “George McGuire Is Too Grumpy” and “Mrs. Ruth Boyd Is a Mean Music Teacher.”  In her college writing classes, she wrote about alternative universes, stewardesses in Hawaii, and other topics far from her own life, ignoring her teachers’ advice to “write what you know” until the fateful day when she attended a reading by Eudora Welty and realized that good stories could come from a relatively uneventful life.  Smith’s first novel was somewhat autobiographical, and her mother, thinking that local folks might believe that every detail about the fictional characters was true of their family, made sure that no one in the small town where the family lived would find that book in a local store or library!  Smith has broadened her choice of topics, having long ago “used up” her childhood and adolescent experiences, but her own experiences still inspire her fiction.

Smith writes about the deaths of loved ones and the mental illnesses of family members, but her memories also include humorous events and times of great joy.

I could select a delightful quotation from almost any page, but I’ll choose just one, which describes her parents’ support for anything she wanted to do with her life: “I believe if I had told my mother that I wanted to be, say, an ax murderer, she would have said, without blinking an eye, ‘Well, that’s nice, dear, what do you think you might want to major in?’  My daddy would have gone out to buy me the ax.  Though my parents might feel – as Mama certainly said later – that they wished I would just stop all that writing stuff and marry a lawyer or a doctor, which is what a daughter really ought to do, of course, the fact is that they were so loving that they gave me the confidence, and the permission, early on, to do just about anything I wanted to do.”

(Helen Snow, retired from Information Services)